Authority Issues - We All Got 'Em!!
Saturday, September 03, 2005
"Don’t tell me what to do!" It's the rebellious cry of our free-thinking, ego-driven society. From soccer moms to CEOs, we all have authority issues. But our defiance breeds discontent—an empty space between us and God. In this series our pastor is teaching in order for us to reconnect with God, we must first recognize His authority and shed our own authority issues.Authority is that legal right delegated by God, whereby certain members of the human race have jurisdiction over, and responsibility for, other members of the human race. 1Pet.2:13
All authority is derived from God. Those who exercise it will answer for the way they use it. Jn.19:11; Rom.13:1,2
Here it is, we all got 'em! Authority Issues!!!
Our Pastor has been teaching a series on Authority Issues for the past three weeks and it has been awesome. I never realized I have authority issues, but I have felt some conviction over the past three weeks. Authority comes in so many ways, our jobs, our homes, even the rules we follow in restaurants, shopping malls, in society in general. I guess I just followed the rules and never really thought about the authorities that placed them there. For instance....
First I want to park my car where I want to park, but the church has parking assistants who tell you where to park. I always park where they want me to, but I sometimes feel aggravated because I want to park somewhere else. So I have to smile and park where they tell me to and not murmur! Then, I am always telling my husband, "Honey, I am woman, hear me roar!!" I always laugh, but I want to be me and sometimes he wants to put me into this little mold and tries to make me be who he thinks I should be. I tell him all the time that God made me this way and he is changing me as fast as He can. LOL!
So guess what the preacher taught on...wives be submissive to your husbands and he even used my phrase...."I am woman hear me roar!" I think God has my number or something, He is always checking me!! I sometimes pray and ask God to get in my face and show me who I really am and this week I guess He is showing me some things I need to work on.
In our home, many years ago we decided to institute this rule...If you wouldn't say it in church, we wouldn't say it in our home, we would have a church atmosphere in our home. If we have an issue we sit down and talk about it, there's no big discussion, we sometimes may agree to disagree on certain things. So there is no arguing, no raising your voice. I mean I can't remember the last time we had an argument.
I don't think my issues are big issues, but it's the little foxes that spoil the vine, so I have to faithful in the small things as well as the big, so I am working on it. So tell me do you have authority issues? I confessed a few of mine, so now it's confession time for all of you...go ahead.
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OK I will admit, that one made me cringe! I am the same way!
I PRIDE (yes I know pride is a sin too!) myself in making myself an independent, strong woman. The thought of being completely submissive to anyone makes me want to pull out my hair and run around naked (with sandals on of course) until they check me into a looney bin..
Ok maybe it's not that serious.. but it does make me cringe to think "how dare they expect ME to change what I have worked so hard to obtain. After all I don't expect them to change!"
LOL!!! Msthang, it must be an issue we women deal with. I want to be me!! I guess that's the struggle we have to deal with, gotta put self down, and think of others more highly than ourselves!!!
I think it is a woman thing.
Don't get me wrong, I think that as a woman I do a good job in compromising alot. After all I don't just do EVERYTHING I want in a relationship, after meeting someone you become a partnership.. you communicate together, make plans together.. in my opinion equals.
I have a very hard time grasping the whole submissive thing though, because although we are equals, partners.. you still view your man as man, and like he is the "head of the household" if you may. I need to go pray lol.
Oh and the sandals thing was a joke from the Mark Hacking case in Utah, who was a "psych tech" lied about going to medical school to his wife. When his wife, Lori, found out about the lies he killed her in her sleep. Anyways, he pretended to go crazy by running around outside his hotel naked, with sandals on lol. Seriously who thinks to put sandals on when they are going crazy?
How terrible, what is going on in this world. I thought you had lost your marbles or something! haha! Glad to hear you still have them all.
(Most) Marbles in tact! New post up!
I really love your plan of making your home a church atmosphere. I'm going to suggest we implement that in my house, too.
It IS the little foxes that spoil the vine - tride and true.
I think that the verse "wives be submissive to your husbands" is used wrong some of the time. If you know the hebrew it more or less reads "Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ". If you read the next verse, the 23rd, which is left out the majority of the time...in a way it says to husbands to be submissive through respect and loving leadership "The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. " Its a team atmosphere - if both are living under christ, lives of submission will be automatic. So 24 reads: "So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands". The key word there is LIKEWISE! 25 "Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church--a love marked by giving, not getting".
I am sure you understand it this way but sometimes people are turned off by those verses and they shouldn't be. He designed it this way to evoke love and bring the best out of his children and "church".
haha..kinda went off on that...but
I think I may have an authority problems "in my head" to people in authority who are not respectful to others and/or themselves. I think respect should be earned - that doesn't mean I am not kind or lovng to them, its just that respect and love are on different playng fields.
That make sence?
sense I mean.
Cav that was awesome! I have never heard it put that way! Also can you send me your URL, so I can get on your site!!
Oh yes, I certainly can relate to that post! I hate to be told what to do. I'm especially naughty with non-human authority. For example, if the sign says No Exit, but it's a faster, more convenient way, then I'll take it. If the button says don't push, I like to push. If the door says Do Not Enter, I usually try the handle. I don't know what it is. It's definately a rebellious spirit and something that I need to work on.
I have a rebellious nature when told what to do, which is probably why I work best when I run my own show. However, we all have been (or should have been) taught respect for those placed in authority over us.
Nice post.
I don't have authority issues! hahahahahaha Just kidding.
Mine would be obeying the laws of the land...speeding, my inspection sticker is still out, a rear tail light too...um and yeah, I like to park where I want as well....
the sermons have really made me think this month...
OK, I think I am the only male to respond to this, but here goes...
cav, I like your response. Here comes that "S" word again! Seriously, when I read that Scripture, the first thing that jumps out at me is who Paul is speaking to - he is addressing wives. He is not telling the men to make the wives submit, he is telling the wives to submit themselves. I cannot make my wife submit, she has to do it of her own free will. Submission is a choice.
The more I understand Christ, the more I see how difficult it is to be a male in this world. Here is why - we are the bride of Christ. If I am a bride, then that means that I must take a female position to Christ. I must allow Him to penetrate me. That is a hard thing for a man to do! Most males do not like to hear that. Yet, look at how Paul addresses the Galatians in his letter to them: "My little children, of whom I travail in birth again until Christ be formed in you." He speaks as a woman giving birth. To me, this is awesome! Look at how affectionately he writes to Timothy in his letters to Timothy, almost as a mother to a daughter. Paul truly had the spirit of the bride. The way society has determined how a man should be, men are hesitant to open up and become penetrable in spirit. This is why that Scripture is so difficult today. Sorry for the rant, but I appreciate this post.
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