Forgiveness
Friday, March 10, 2006
Have you ever had this happen to you? Recently I had an opportunity to practice forgiveness. First a co-worker decided to speak with a supervisor of mine and accuse me of something I did not do. So after speaking with my supervisor, I advised her I was going to confront the person to find out why they said what they said, because it wasn't true, not even a shred of truth was in it.
Well, upon confrontation this person denied saying anything. So I went back to my supervisor and shared with her they had denied saying anything at all. So she decided to have a meeting to confront the issue and find out the truth.
So we arrive at the meeting and this person changed their story once they got in front of the supervisor. She even stated to the supervisor she was not logging a complaint but just making a passing comment.
I proceeded to say this is not what you said when I asked you about it. She again said it was, so I told the supervisor to pull the tapes because the area where I confronted this person, they tape our conversations. I stated I was not going to argue, I am not the one who started this, so pull the tape of our conversation and then you will know the truth. Well needless to say, this person didn't say anything else and that was the last of the story, because the tapes held the truth.
I sometimes think people have too much time on their hands. It seems they want to gossip about someone or just rattle their tongue for no reason. I am not a person who likes to sit around and gossip. I have even been known when gossip starts to say something like, "Is that true? Is it Kind and Is it Necessary?" It usually stops the conversation. I do it in a kidding way, but the message is the same.
I am not sure why this person said what they said, but I do know I am not responsible for what people do to me, I am only responsible to how I respond to it. So I have been praying for this person and also that I will have a right attitude and not meditate on it. I have learned that in everything that happens, I learn something, it grows me, so I ask God what He is teaching me in this circumstance? Is it about forgiveness? Is it that we don't fight against flesh and blood and this person is not my real enemy, but Satan is? I am not sure what the lesson is, but I pray I have learned from this what God wants me to learn.
Well, upon confrontation this person denied saying anything. So I went back to my supervisor and shared with her they had denied saying anything at all. So she decided to have a meeting to confront the issue and find out the truth.
So we arrive at the meeting and this person changed their story once they got in front of the supervisor. She even stated to the supervisor she was not logging a complaint but just making a passing comment.
I proceeded to say this is not what you said when I asked you about it. She again said it was, so I told the supervisor to pull the tapes because the area where I confronted this person, they tape our conversations. I stated I was not going to argue, I am not the one who started this, so pull the tape of our conversation and then you will know the truth. Well needless to say, this person didn't say anything else and that was the last of the story, because the tapes held the truth.
I sometimes think people have too much time on their hands. It seems they want to gossip about someone or just rattle their tongue for no reason. I am not a person who likes to sit around and gossip. I have even been known when gossip starts to say something like, "Is that true? Is it Kind and Is it Necessary?" It usually stops the conversation. I do it in a kidding way, but the message is the same.
I am not sure why this person said what they said, but I do know I am not responsible for what people do to me, I am only responsible to how I respond to it. So I have been praying for this person and also that I will have a right attitude and not meditate on it. I have learned that in everything that happens, I learn something, it grows me, so I ask God what He is teaching me in this circumstance? Is it about forgiveness? Is it that we don't fight against flesh and blood and this person is not my real enemy, but Satan is? I am not sure what the lesson is, but I pray I have learned from this what God wants me to learn.
posted by Live, Love, Laugh | 11:26 PM
11 Comments:
Greetings! First time to visit your blog. Excellent on forgiveness! I came to your site from your comment on the fortytoforever prayer blog. So neat to connect with the family of God from all over the place and see how He is molding lives daily in different ways for all of us.
Enjoyed some of your previous posts, especially the laughter one. Just watching The Three Amigos always gets me laughing.
It is very importatn for our mental, physical and spiritual health to not hold resentments towards others. When they do wrong, then we need to let that wrong deed lay on their shoulders and not be the holder of the sin.
Good for you.
You are so true, we aren't responsible for others; just ourselves. Most people would just turn around & start saying stuff about that person. I think it's great that instead, you lift them up in prayer. You are remarkable!
It's so nice to be around someone who doesn't gossip. You can always find something good to say about somebody...always.
"Blessed are you when men percecute you for my sake for great is your reward in heaven." Maybe God just wanted to bless you with another treasure. When you're up there maybe He'll say, this is what I created through you that day and you'll say, "my God and my King!" I updated. Hope you have a chance to come by again.
You have a refreshing, honest way of writing that I greatly enjoy. I have gone back and read a few of your older post. I decided that I will link to you. Hope you don't mind.
Oh yeah. One of the businesses that I bought is notorious for being a hotbed of gossip. One of my first rules, and I've adhered to it, is if you've gotta problem with someone, take it off the floor and tell them directly. Gossip and backbiting get me MAD and I won't tolerate it. I've been in too many miserable situations before, myself.
Your story illustrates the destructive power of gossip and back-biting. It sunders trust and belittles the dignity of man. I'm glad you confronted it aggressively.
Stopped by to pay you a visit. Enjoyed reading "Forgiveness". You have a very interesting source of ministry. I admire you, and all who are involved in police work. It is a tough and dangerous work. But very much needed.
Thanks for stopping by FIRE AND HAMMER.
Geez where did all these posts come from? lol.
I find that when it comes to gossip I try to stay away, and for complaining about someone I never say anything I wouldn't say to their face. I can't stand it when people deny saying things you KNOW they said. You handled it very well I think.
The woman who started the rumors and lies has only made herself look bad. You didn't have to do anything, she did it to herself. It will make more sense to tell her to her face that you forgive her.
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