Sunday, December 02, 2007

Growing Strong

Some gifts you can give this Christmas are beyond monetary value: Mend a quarrel, dismiss suspicion, tell someone, "I love you." Give something away--anonymously. Forgive someone who has treated you wrong. Turn away wrath with a soft answer. Visit someone in a nursing home. Apologize if you were wrong. Be especially kind to someone with whom you work. Give as God gave to you in Christ, without obligation, or announcement, or reservation, or hypocrisy.
Charles Swindoll
Many things happened this year that I wasn't expecting, but again I know in whom I believe and I know He watches over me....
I found out a few months ago my daughter is a lesbian, and she married another woman. I was in total shock. I never in a million years would have thought she would be in this relationship much less take it to this level. She was in the ministry with us for years and knows the Word. I don't really understand.
So you know what I did. I cried, I got some wise counsel, and took it to God, then did the only thing I could do. I chose to love her anyway. She is still my baby girl, I love her so much. I pray for her day and night, sometimes in the wee hours when I wake up. God knows and He has shown me it is for Him to work out cause I can't fix anyone or make them be who I want them to be, all I can do it pray they become who He created them to be.
I also found out this year, my other daughter and her baby boy left my son in law. She finally told me, she thought I would be disappointed. I could never be disappointed in her, when she hurts, I hurt. Thru all of this and while Chuck was home recuperating from the cancer procedure, she came over and prayed to accept Christ as her personal savior. We thought she had accepted Christ years ago as a child, but she said she had never actually prayed and asked Him into her heart.
She has since went back to her husband but at this point, it is a constant struggle for her, she is unhappy and I don't know from day to day what is going to happen. Again, I take it to the one who has the answers, that is all I can do, is pray, love her and hang in there with her.
My son I found out was going thru counseling this year and struggling with issues in his life. I thought he had everything together and everything was wonderful. He is so amazing and so loved by everyone. You never know what's behind the eyes of someone you know and love.
So as I read this quote by Charles Swindol at the front of this post, I was reminded, there are many around us hurting. Alot of times we focus on our hurt, we look inwardly, not outwardly. I have become stronger thru all my struggles..
Today, I pray for your family and for mine this year, may God be with you in the valleys and on the mountaintops!!

13 Comments:

Blogger KayMac said...

I am adding you and your family to my prayer list. Once again, you have inspired me. BTW, I just came across this book and it is the BEST book on relationships (altho this is geared to marriage) that I have EVER EVER read (and I have been part of a counseling ministry so I have read ALOT). "When Sinners Say I Do. Discovering the Power of the Gospel for Marriage" by Dave Harvey. Peace, my friend!

10:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Dana,

I know your heart has been troubled, but I think you are doing the right thing !

I pray thet God will continue to hold you and your family in the palm of His Hand ?

Blessings.
Ron.

6:01 PM  
Blogger Leann said...

You and yours will be in my prayers this year Dana.

7:50 PM  
Blogger itsboopchile said...

Thank you for this post. Thank you for giving your needs for prayer and I will be praying for you and your family.
Also, for your husband to continue healing.
Only God is the Healer.
Everyone has problems and heartaches, some more than others.
We can love only because God gives us the grace.
Betty G

9:20 PM  
Blogger Keasty said...

Thanks Dana for sharing that heavy stuff.
What a thrill that your daughter's name is now written in the lamb's book of life!
Thanks Kaymac, I'll search out the book. The one I love is THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES. I learnt a heap through that even though I'd been married for decades.
May God continue to uphold you Dana. Bless you. You bless others as you share your journey.

12:52 AM  
Blogger Pat said...

Choosing to love is never the wrong decision...you have had many valleys and mountaintops this year, and God always was right there with you. You have always been such an encouragement to me, this past year has been difficult, my mother passed away just last week. I continue to pray for you and your family...may the next year be one of blessings and peace.

5:05 PM  
Blogger Norma said...

Your children are fortunate to have your love and support.

3:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Joe and BJ wishes you a very Merry Christmas and a Blessed and safe New Year 2008.

4:28 PM  
Anonymous ron said...

Hello Dana,

Been thinking and praying for you and your family . I wish you a blessed and Happy New Year and plenty of good wishes. May it be filled with Gods Love .

Blessings.
Ron.

6:52 PM  
Blogger Mountaingirl said...

It is so hard sometimes to see those we love struggle and suffer and make bad decisions. My boys are small and sometimes I find myself worrying over whether or not they will make good decisions for themselves when they get older, but I know that I have to have faith in the Lord and what I have raised them to believe.

And speaking from the perspective of a "prodigal's son"... I know that no matter how hard I tried to run from the Lord He would not let me be. I can't imagine how much my life must have grieved the Holy Spirit for the better part of 15 yrs, bu He refused to let me destroy myself because I belonged to Him. (I think back to Psalms 107) So for your children if they have given themselves to the Lord at some point in their lives they may try to deny that they belong to the Lord, but He won't let them forget. It may take hard times to humble them, but He is faithful to do whatever is necessary to bring us back to Him and to restore them.

1:24 PM  
Blogger Neva said...

My dear friend,
I am so sorry I have been so late reading and offering my prayers along with the others. Please know that my heart hurts for yours.
I am praying God will grant you safe passage through all these lifestorms.

Blessings and prayers
neva

9:08 PM  
Blogger byhisgracealone said...

Dana,
You have been on my heart...wanted to come by and say hello...let you know I continue to lift prayers up daily for you and yours...may His love comfort and guide you....

hugs
donna

7:52 PM  
Blogger Godwyn Lim said...

Belated Merry X'mas & Happy New Year Beloved. May God give you of the dew of heaven, and the fatness of the Earth! I didn’t blog for quite a long while as I am unwell. Keep me in prayers, visit my blog when you are free, I finally did an entry!

10:39 AM  

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